Monday, 26 November 2007

Rendevouz With Ridz1 at Secret Recipe :)

ONE FINE DAY,Our dear friend RIDZ1 decided to finally make it a reality and make it happen and Belanja Me (My Lady) and Ms. Danne and since we are kinda celebrating our friendship as well as birthdays and just being us all in one celebration and what more appropriate place then to have it @ Secret Recipe where all of us can have our own cake to celebrate our own birthdays for the whole year hehehehe :)
And you know...all three of us may have different age range but we all have one thing in common ....
All of us being ex- Uitm students :) How bizzare is that hehehe!

Smileys before and after the perut dah kenyang session :)

This is what we had..yummmmm...meeee :)

Ok i just have to post this coz its the pride and joy for Ridz1 and also it was my ride home for the night and it's a Wow effect indeed! It's Red and it Hot and its REDRIDZ! hehehe :)

Last but not the least....Ridz1, Thank you soooo much for making it a blast of a day! and remember PDA Phone NExt! hehehe

Reminising day!


Are "Should" and "Ought" Blocking Your Path to Love?

How to overcome three intentional roadblocks to love

By Kathryn Lord


Have you heard yourself saying things like "I should be thinking about my Sweetheart 24/7 or I must not be in love" or "I should know if he (or she) is the right one for me"? Or how about "We should have... (fill in the blank: the same sense of humor, a similar background, or compatible taste in furniture)"?

I find that lots of singles have rules that guide their love life. Some rules make good sense (like only dating people who are really single and available, economically stable, and live within the law). But many rules are unrealistic, harsh, or based on romantic myths. Then these singles end up comparing their dates with their guidelines, sensible or not, and making life decisions that have enormous consequences.

I am a romance coach, but I have also been a psychotherapist for over 30 years. I learned long ago to listen carefully to the language my clients use when they talk about themselves and their lives. In particular, I'd watch for the words "should" and "ought."

What's wrong with 'should' and 'ought?'

While exceedingly and commonly used, "should" and "ought" could easily be eliminated from our vocabulary. At the very least, we would all feel a lot better. Should and ought are guilt-producing words: "I should spend more time with my mother," "I really ought to lose some weight." The sayer doesn't really intend to do what he is shoulding or oughting. If so, he'd say, "I will spend more time with Mom," or "I'm going to start dieting today."

Shoulding and oughting are like giving yourself a lash on the back

Shoulding and oughting are like giving yourself a lash on the back: You are punishing yourself with your "I should" or "I ought" statements. Your guilt is eased with your punishment, making it possible to go on with your life, while never following through with what you said you should or ought to do.

In the case of love, shoulds and oughts give us a way out when we need it, just like being picky. Looking for love is loaded with anxiety: "What if it doesn't work?" "What if I find out I don't really love her?" "What if he finds out about (you fill in the blank)?" When your anxiety screams for relief, pulling out a good old should or ought can provide your escape hatch.

Top 'shoulds' and 'oughts': Road blocks to love

Let's look at some common shoulds and oughts more closely, so that we can see the errors in thinking:

1. "I should be thinking about my Sweetheart 24/7 or I must not be in love." Odd as it may sound, some people never feel the intoxicating sensations we think of as "being in love." The ability to fall in love is on a continuum:

Some people fall in and out of love very easily, some people never do.

Some people fall in and out of love very easily, some people never do. Most of us are somewhere in between. Those people who never "fall in love" are still quite capable of loving and forming relationships. If you find yourself waiting for the "in love" sensation which never comes, the "I should be thinking about my Sweetheart 24/7 or I must not be in love" could keep you permanently single.

2. "I should know if he (or she) is the right one for me." Really? How? Of course there are better or worse choices, but assuming that your date meets your criteria of "good person" and the two of you enjoy each other, seem compatible, and don't irritate the heck out of each other, what more do you need? This "should" may be connected to your "falling in love" ability: If you are able to "fall in love," that biochemical process (it's like being drunk or high) helps surge you forward into a permanent relationship and over any questions or doubts.

3. "We should share the same ... (fill in the blank)." Why? One of the wonderful parts about finding a life partner is all the things that he or she knows and you don't, or is and you are not. Think of what you can learn from the differences. Or what you won't have to learn because your partner already knows.

Yes, some similarity is good, but why would you want someone just like you?

Yes, some similarity is good, but why would you want someone just like you? You may be pretty terrific, but how boring would it be to be married to your carbon copy!

So pay attention to your inner thoughts about love and your dates. If "should" or "ought" crop up in your thinking, take note and challenge yourself. You may have set up a condition that is road-blocking your search for love.



Interesting article I must say and I just have to share it with you guys J


Sunday, 18 November 2007

How did you get here

How did you get here
but if only you knew
how many times I've said those words
then fall again when will I ever learn
knowing these tears I've cried
this lovely black butterfly
must take a chance and spread my wings
love can make you do some crazy things
so I place my heart under lock and key
to take some time off and take care of me
but I turn around and you're standing here
standing here
how did you
how did you get here?

Deborah Cox - Nobody's Supposed to Be Here

I've always like B&W and coz it shows a very dry and contrasting capture of our ownself then colours would..i always think of colours are masking our real feelings coz when we see colours in a picture we tend to focus on many many particles of colours and dont actually focus on the real texture of object and this is my thought anyways. So here is my early morning ramblings and creative works @ work!

Creative@ Work!

Saturday, 17 November 2007

My first celeb shot!

This is my first celebrity paparazi like picture! i was so excited but at the same time irritated coz my big ass camera suddenly decided that its not coming out of my bag! anyhow...tried taking pictures like how the paparazi is doing like pretending to take other peoples picure but actually snooping at the celebrity so here is the resullt of it...blurry pics with lots of motion blur and backside shots! Well least i can be proud to say that ...i have Ning's backside shot! hahahha..but truly she's a doll! i love her songs anyways "aan yg terpilu" indeed ;)

Paparazi me!

Neng Clarity!

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One of my favourite this song by dixie chics its called "Landslide"

Creative @ work!

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Friday, 16 November 2007

AnDrEA's Visit to KK

This is a token i got from Andrea he brought it with him all the way from Italy for my birthday present....awwww ur so sweet :)

Here is my song dedicated to my friend Andrea :) Colbie Caillat - "Bubbly"

I've been awake for a while now
you've got me feelin like a child now
cause every time I see your bubbly face
I get the tinglies in a silly place

It starts in my toesand I crinkle my nose
where ever it goes I always know
that you make me smile
please stay for a while now
just take your time
where ever you go
The rain is fallin on my window pane
but we are hidin in a safer place
under the covers stayin safe and warm
you give me feelins that I adore

It starts in my toes
makes me crinkle my nose
where ever it goesI always know
that you make me smile
please stay for a while now
just take your timewhere ever you go

What am I gonna say

when you make me feel this way
I just........mmmmmmmmmmm

It starts in my soul
And I lose all control
When you kiss my nose
The feelin shows
Cause you make me smile
Baby just take your time
Holdin me tight

Hope to see you soon Andrea!
Love Always!

November Birthday Bash! - 10th November 2007

Well i cant believe it, but my birthday bash theme GREEN is finally here and i was sooooooooo happy and would like to thank all the jambus and the tukang2 sponsors that was kind enough to put more happiness to our wonderful feast on that day :) ANd without further are the pictures and video clips of the GREEN DAY celebration @ Fratini's :)

Here is kerabau pendeks gang without one member....lilblackdots :(

Over at the Right side L- R : Junnie, Morientez, prettykismet and clarity

Over at the Left side L- R : Ms. Danne, cheeky egg, mummy flav & clarity

This is my favourite birthday picture coz its got so much contrasting colour!

The Bithday Cake....yummmyyyy!

Thank you guys for a wonderful Birthday Bash, one that i will always cherish and remember always! OK now looking forward to the next brthday bash for the December gals :)!

And this one is my favourite present of all...its a gift from mummy flav..and its so cool made me smile when i hear the music it plays each time u lit the lighter! thanks mummy dearest :)

Thank you guys for a wonderful birthday bash!!

Love always


Thursday, 15 November 2007

Blood Donation Day - Nov 7th 2007

I just let the pictures speak for itself k :)

Our Blood Donation Motto & btw, those butterflies are for ms. danne :)

here are the donors...cheeky egg, lil blackdots & ms. danne :) You guys are so so so brave muakkkkkkkkkkkkkks! Thumbs up for two first timers cheeky and lil blackdots :)

My fifth time and i'll do it again and again for as long as i can for these speacial kids!

Our Special kids! love you guys!

save live by donating blood!


More birthday gifts and suprises!!

This is the most cheekiest gift i got and its from none other..cheeky egg hersel! muahhhh! thank you rotten egg! ;) nanti u tunggu for ur pressie k :)

This is my pressie i got from lilblackdots!! i sooooooooooooooooo love it coz its greeeeeeeeeeeeeeen!
Muahhhhh! thank you too dearie!!!

This one comes afar....its from my best buddy David from the US of came late BUT it's the thought that counts emmuahhhhhhhhhhhh!
Thank you sweetheart!! you're a gem! and thanks for the sunflower seeds too hope i can plant them soon ;)

ThAnk YoU AlL!!



Friday, 9 November 2007


Originally uploaded by Farl
A Nice Article about Love
by Swami Vivekananda

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand withsome water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love.

" This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love ... they try to posses it, they demand, they expect ... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free,

you can not change its nature.

If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice.

It is the secret to true love.To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring."

Passing thought ... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime


Something to think about...


Keith Sweat - Nobody

I want to tease you
I want to please you
I want to show you baby
That I need you
I want your body'
Till the very last drop
I want you to holler
When you want me to stop
And who can love you like me (nobody)
Who can sex you like me (nobody)
Who can treat you like me now, baby (nobody)
Nobody, baby (nobody)
And who can do it like me (nobody)
And who can give you what you need (nobody)
Who can do you all night long (nobody)
Nobody, baby (nobody)

I want the night
For me and you
So come here baby
And let me do it to you
Don't be afraid
'Cuz I won't bite
I promise to give it to you
Just the way you like
And who can love you like me (nobody)
Who can sex you like me (nobody)
Who can lay your body down (nobody)
Nobody, baby (nobody)
And who can treat you like me (nobody)
Who can give you what you need (nobody)
And who can do you all night long (nobody)
Nobody, baby (nobody)
And the band keeps playing on

On, on, on, and on, on
On, on, on, and on, on
On, on, on, and on, on
Nobody, baby
On, on, on, and on, on
On, on, on, and on, on
On, on, on, and on, on
Nobody baby
I want you right now for my lover
Oh yes I do
Place no one above you
Oh yes I do
If you need love
I'll be right
I'll be right there, baby
Oh yes I will
Oh yes I will baby
Oh yes I will baby
And who will love you like me (nobody)
Who can sex your body like me baby (nobody)
Who can do it like me, baby (nobody)
No, no, no (nobody)
Who can lay you down just like me (nobody)
Who can kiss you all over your body, baby (nobody)

Keith Sweat - Nobody

I was browsing for an article at one of the Malaysian online hype megazine and i came accross that picture so i thought i need to look for a suitable song to go with it and so i got this song by Keith Sweat - Nobody. gosh! its sooooo darn sexual stimulant ! hahahha
This song is kinda sexual, more romantic than most, and its like taking you to a place where you just want to dream a little dream to make you want to listen to its novelty & become one with the song and it also has you feeling like your up in cloud 9. I know I'm made to want to do just that hahaha

anyhow, enjoy sex in the city ;)
Psst...this one dedicated to amey! muahhh!
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Another day...

another day
Originally uploaded by BRANDON TAELOR AVIRAM
Another day ....well im turning a new leafn today as a lot of things happened to me in the course of a few months and im gonna chuck it all out of my system once and for all and this is how i do it!

I was browsing thru my flickr page again and then i came across Brandon's flickr page and fell in love wt all his pictures. It's just the way he captures his images its so contrast and musky and gothic almost or is and i love it..something that i can never do so im just gonna admire his work! It's marvelous indeed. I hope my fellow readers of my blog will go nd check out his flickr page it's really awesome! Good job Brandon!

here is another day from me,
Clarity- Defines-You!

Wednesday, 7 November 2007


Just another one of my creative works...just enjoy doing this kinda thing sometimes ;)

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Tuesday, 6 November 2007

My bling! Bling! Gift from my sister :)

here is the bling! bling! necklace my sister got for me for my birthday and at first i didnt like it but after a while it kinda grow on you and now im liking it! thank you my baby sister mewot for a beautiful birthday gift!

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Sunday, 4 November 2007

My Birthday Weekend!

Well i'm a year older again and gosh it seemed like yesterday i was just 16...hehehe..But this year alone has been a kinda confusing year for me been going up and down like a yoyo with almost everything in my life. It's just out of this world indeed. I have achieved at least one thing that i most wanted and thats to lose some weight and i did. I still need to lose some but im just happy that i have my visible and tangible assets still intact and going good :) but anyhow i'm also glad that through out the year i didnt have much disaster with my health which is usually the case but thank god this year its been keeping itself good and steadily and i should just owrk on maintaining my health to this level as i possibly can ..not an easy task coz i'm a godoot' and food is just so yummy and so hard to resist BUT if i wanna stay alive i need to cut down on oily food stuffs but maintaining eating spices like curries coz so far it helped me a lot to gain back my appetite. Ok now im i supposed to lose the appetite or to gain ..hahaha But i shall promise to myself that i will practise moderate eating eventhough "heaps" means "hips growing vertically" and its just hard to resist eating heaps of stuffs ..BUT will try my best! Next...well, hopefully i have better luck in love after this 34th birthday of mine and i probably need to "mandi Bunga" or some sort...i dont know ..maybe i should just go who knows something will come out of it. Only god knows i supposed. Ok enough of that, enough said that i hope to have a better start at anything i persue in for the time im in my 34th year, thats all im hoping for!

And without any dilly are the pictures....

well they've got style but unfortunately the fishies ran away from them "pemamcings" coz they are too loud hehehe

So all in all, i had a marvelous time on my birthday and my team ARSENAL could have done worse but at least they had a draw with the "Manure" team hahahaha!
eat your heart out MLYK!! Told you my team will not lose!
ok enough ramblings!

Friends always :)

Thank you morientez! i love it! now i just need to find a HE and She Picture to put on it then it'll be perfect :) Any sudgestion?? hahahha

November Gal!

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birthday wishes - Thanks everyone!

Birthday Mood!